season 4, episode 4: spilling the “disabilitea”

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This week we’ll discuss gaslighting yourself, the intersection of disability justice and fat activism, plus we’ll spill the disabiliTEA and Alex Locust @glamputee will be answering a question with Sophie.


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The Meat of It:


Alex Locust Website / Resources Page / Instagram / Spill the Disabili-Tea™ / Read Far from the Tree andExhile and Pride / Venmo!!


What is disability justice? Well, according to the World Health Organization, Disability is “a complex phenomenon, reflecting the interaction between features of a person’s body and features of the society in which he or she lives.” Basically, any kind of structural difference in brain or body or mind can be a disability if society doesn’t accommodate that difference.


Patty Berne’s Disability Justice / World Health Organization on impairment / Invisible Disabilities / CDC on person-first language / #saytheword / Crip Theory / Can We All Go / The ADA / Crip the Vote /Internalized Ableism / Mia Mingus / Leaving Evidence / Access Intimacy / Denarii Grace / Keah Brown /Keah's new book / Sins Invalid / Video: Fat Liberation x Disability Justice (Sins Invalid) / Judith Heumann /Teen Vogue Article / Plastic Straw Ban / Your Fat Friend article / Nomy Lamm on The Body is Not an Apology / Barbell Blondie / Kimberle Crenshaw on Intersectionality / The Body is Not an Apology


More Resources:


Defiant Lives / 5 Ways Schools Can Support Fat Disabled LGBTQ Students / Advocacy for Black Disabled Folk / Fat Embodiment & Disability Studies / Social Model of Disability Video / Disability Sensitivity Training Video / 5 Phrases Disabled People Are Tired Of Video / Police killings: the price of being disabled and black in America / Considerations for creating an accessible meeting or party / A Short History of the Disability Rights Movement / what literature reveals about how we treat disabilities


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